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just life stuff today

I went a bit MIA this week because I’ve had a lot of stuff going on related to school life. It’s been an amazing week academically/professionally- but I know I’ve slacked off on things that matter like food prep and making time for exercise and all that stuff I know is important too.

But good news first. I graduate in May. In about 3.5 weeks, I’ll have my masters degree. I’m excited, but I love school, so I’m admittedly a bit sad at the same time. Wednesday I got an email that I was one of the graduate students nominated to be the student speaker at graduation. That floors me. I have to write a speech (which, even though I’m a decent formal writer), so the chances of me actually winning are probably minimal, so just being nominated for the honor is pretty awesome. Before graduate school, I never was chosen for anything like this- by anyone. So it definitely makes me smile.

And then today I got an email that a conference proposal I was invited to be part of was accepted, so I present alongside some amazing people at a national conference in October. I feel so incredibly lucky. And it’s a nice way to glimpse into the academia side of Counseling. Which is something I really want to do (i.e. pursue a doctoral degree), but I’m not confident enough to say that’s definitely something I’m going to do right now. I wish I had delved into more research during my masters degree, but it’s never too late. It’s one of those things I file under “Dreams”. So we’ll see where that goes.

I haven’t even had time to go grocery shopping this week. But I (re)discovered how much I like zucchini and oatmeal that isn’t straight up rolled oats. My dad had gotten me some of the “real” oats last time. Pretty sure those are good for baking cookies and not microwaved oatmeal. They just kinda float around in the water and don’t absorb a lot. Which is not terribly tasty. But all for tonight. Back to some real posts tomorrow.

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I’m definitely not perfect- and I’m okay with that


I didn’t post at all yesterday because I did not stop all day. Unfortunately, that included not stopping to eat. I had a solid breakfast- a banana bake as BFF and I refer to it in shorthand. She found it sometime last year on Recipage (awesome for getting recipe inspiration).  I’ll be honest, I’ve never actually baked it. Usually it’s a quick go to recipe that you can doctor up however you like. I’ve added cocoa powder, switched out the banana for pumpkin, put berries(or other fruit) inside the mixture before microwaving. And I don’t sift. When I have 5 minutes to myself,  in the morning, to make breakfast I am not pulling out a sifter. Just stir vigorously and you’ll be fine.

But as I said, the day got away from me. I went to the New Jersey School Counselor Conference which is always really good. It’s a small conference, but they always have really good people presenting. I didn’t prep any food for the day because I knew there was a free lunch and then I had an event at school until at least 8pm.

Well I missed the free lunch because I offered to go to Costco with someone to get stuff for the evening event- and by the time I got back, lunch was over. So I was honestly fine during my afternoon session, but knew it’d be a long time until any sort of dinner. Fortunately there’s a Starbucks nearby, so I grabbed a coffee and a plain multigrain bagel and went to help prep more stuff for the evening. Well I caught caught up in that and didn’t eat the bagel until about 5pm as I was untangling balloons (I found 1/4 of it still in my bag when I was looking for something at 9pm).

I grabbed a few grapes during the event, but that was it. And here’s where my balance comes in. I never go out. And that is no exaggeration. I’ve always lacked self-confidence in social situations that I’d avoid putting myself in them. And I don’t mean to sound like this is in every area of my life, but when it comes to purely social spots- like bars- I would always feel out of place. Also I usually never got invited- which isn’t a self-pitying comment, more a realization that this was probably due to the fact that I never put myself out there and said I wanted to go. But I’ve gotten better with confidence overall, amongst other things- and especially with my grad school people- I feel really comfortable. So anyways, I went out after the event. We went to a Mexican place- still hadn’t eaten dinner- but no one else was eating real food, so I just snacked on tortilla chips and drank sangria. I didn’t go crazy or anything, it was just normal and fun.

IMG_4902-001I stayed out late (for having been at workshops and stuff since 8am), but it was such a good day. The event was a school thing, and I’m graduating, so I was terribly sappy and made all my professors take photos with me. I love them all and secretly (or perhaps not so secretly wish I was actually a part of the department). The chair of the department actually said to me a few times, with me it ‘s like having another faculty member around. Probably one of the best compliments I’ve ever gotten.

While I’d feel like a bit of a creeper sharing those photos on here, I’ll post a picture of me because I really loved my outfit. Although I did realize yesterday, that I need a new belt that I can wear with high-waisted things because this belt (I guess fortunately) droops a bit too much for my liking.

I ate a bit when I came home (too many carbs) like a mini bagel, carrots and hummus and a bit of oatmeal at like 12am because I was actually starving, but I only ate about 1400 cals yesterday overall, which yeah is above my range- but manageable. And yesterday was not the ideal example of food planning and execution, but I didn’t eat the buffet of cake and cookies at the event nor did I scarf down ridiculous things when I got home. Alright they were a bit ridiculous, but controlled.

I even contemplated how to write about all of this, because it’s obviously so much easier to share what you’re proud of rather than share the times when you’re not perfect, but in thinking about what I’ve read from others that’s helped me- above all it’s honesty. So there we go.

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It feels like starting over

Breakfast was a French Toast Scramble– I doubled it, and admittedly slacked on adding any of the extra flavorings cause I stuck it in a


almost empty pb jar (there was 1T of pb in there, for the record). It was the Stop & Shop brand All Natural Creamy Peanut Butter (which is a halfway-decent dupe for the Teddie All Natural Creamy Peanut Butter I found when I was on vacation in New Hampshire, and which I sadly realized they do not stock in the Garden State. There was no picture, because I may have eaten this on the way to work while listening to the second to last CD for my National Counselor Exam Review. Not the brightest idea, I know, but something’s gotta give.

I admit, I read tons of Healthy Living Blogs. And while my Pinterest boards have been rather quiet lately, I’m really into Instagram as a new venue to get ideas and recipes. I follow a few really inspiring people (saraherose3, pbeechie, amandamclark, kmcwold, angelamccafferty).

So in trying to work this out and figure out where I went wrong, I also want to figure out what I did right. So many times, I think it’s so easy to fall into the “I’m a failure, so why stop now” sort of deal. I always find, when counseling people, a really good question is always, “So, how’s that been working for you?” Because if you’re making the same mistakes over and over and nothing’s changing- the answer is- probably not very well.

So I’m trying to zero in on what I did right last year:

  1. Made breakfast every day. And took a picture to send to BFF. (This is kind of my motivation for venturing back into the world of blogging. I’ve never been one to stick with anything, but I think I really need this accountability- whether it be to BFF or the one or two people that happen across this blog). 
  2. Put thought into lunch planning. Figured out calories and didn’t pack any extras. I’m all about cute bento style lunches- I just have to plan ahead.
  3. Ate tons of fruit and veggies. I still do this now, but this was a big help.
  4. (Kind of connected to #3) Ate lots of salads.
  5. Fell in love with oatmeal. I thought it all tasted like wallpaper paste. I was wrong.
  6. I was honest and asked for help/ support when I needed it. I haven’t done this lately. Ironically, it’s kind of a by-product of being successful. It’s hard to lose a third of who you are and then struggle to admit you’re having a hard time when everyone is asking you for advice.
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